Techniques for
Clitoral Stimulation

Manual Stimulation (Rubbing the Clitoris, also known as Fingering a Girl)

Manual stimulation of the clitoris is a vital part of lovemaking. If you don't do it, chances are you'll have a very disappointed lover, so you want to make sure you get it right.

If you're unsure of where the clitoris is, go back to here. If you're still uncertain, it's a good idea to ask your lover if you're hitting the right spot. As always, good communication is the key.

Start very gently with light strokes, as though you were touching a flower. The clitoris is a very sensitive organ, so it's best to start carefully. It's a good idea to occasionally touch the areas around the clitoris, as these are also sensitive and make for a nice contrast when you return to the clit.

Make sure your fingers are smooth and your fingernails aren't jagged - a scratch on the clit can be excruciating.

After those first few strokes, ask her if it's OK. If she gives you a green light you can start to increase the speed, and, if she wants it, the pressure of your strokes. If she's getting breathless, go faster, but remember not to go too hard, or you may put her off her orgasm (sometimes the smallest things can distract).

A good way to practice clitoral stimulation is to rub the palm of your left hand with your right index finger. The pressure and speed which is most pleasurable on your hand is very similar to the needs of a clitoris.

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